How to be a better couple?
Friday, August 15, 2008
Ok.. I myself am no relationship expert.. I once posted a something which is about how a girlfriend should be treated.. But eventually, it takes 2 hands to clap and after reading this e-mail sent to me from my friend, i found it rather useful (as guidelines). However, eventually, it is the effort put in by both parties that make things really work out. =))
1. Be realistic about each other.
Don't try to turn your partner into something he or she is not. Let's face it, guys-there's only 1 Pamela Anderson in the world, and even she has had her implants removed! Give your girl a break and understand that her physical appearance is NOT going to change overnight with the help of a few facials or treatments. And ladies, Brad Pitt has already been taken, so u're gonna have to do with what your guy is like! Chill out, love each other for what u are. There is more to your partner than what meets the eye. 2. Always talk things out.
Now guys, I know this is not your fave pastime or mode of resolving issues, but u know what? This works with the girls. Don't make assumptions about each other's feelings. Learn to express yourself better so that your partner understands what u're angry about, or hurt about, or even happy about! When u stop talking to each other from the heart, it's the beginning of the end. 3. Do stuff together
Make an effort to do things together. Do some sports or involve yourselves in some shared activities; something both of u enjoy or are interested in. It could be as simple as watching movies together, or just strolling hand-in-hand down Orchard Road. Watch soccer with him once in a while though the green patch on TV puts u to sleep in 3 seconds. And guys, do give in if your girl asks for another day at window-shopping, rather than suggest that she go out with her girlfriends for 'that sort of activities' instead. If u're spending more time with your friends rather than with your partner, it's a warning sign that u're drifting apart!!! 4. Meet each other halfway..Compromise! If he agrees to throw out that rotten T-shirt with the 'The Rock' print, u shouldn't kick up much of a fuss if he asks u to keep your room tidy... There's gotta be a little giving and taking in a relationship, so learn to meet each other halfway.5.Show your loveBuy her flowers or candy or perfume every now and then, even if u have been together for 5years. It's wonderful to continue showing someone that u care for him or her. Cook him a special meal, paint him a Valentine's Day card. Knit him mini-socks he can't wear ( like for decoration purposes =D ), buy him a packet of milk for breakfast, or pack his wardrobe for him...so he knows u can still be romantic and loving despite having been together for quite a while. 6. Respect each other.Stop making jokes about her hair or skin, or whatever it is u love to laugh at. Ask yourself if she thinks its funny. And if he has an inferiority complex about his height, stop ogling at tall guys and make him feel worse! Love is about respecting each other's feelings and being sensitive to each other at all times.7. Bury the past..Stop bringing up the past. Gals..don't bring up the happy things about u and your ex to your guy, it would just make him jealous or unhappy. And guys, don't talk about the happy times that u had with your ex or mention about her in your every other sentence as it would make your gal feel un-happy and she might think that u saying all this because u are gonna get back with your ex or not interested in her anymore.8. Sit on ur Jealousy.
All of us go thru spells of insecurity at the beginning of the relationship, but don't translate that insecurity into jealousy. If u're gonna go through your partner's mail and cupboard, and eavesdropping on conversations, u know something is wrong - with u!!! Jealousy is like a poison that slowly spreads thru the relationship before finally killing it. Trust your partner; love has to have trust in it.
9. Keep your Commitments to each other.If your partner is standing u up all the time and cancelling dates and breaking promises, u need to talk! If u're in a relationship, make your partner your priority and don't disappoint them if u can help it. It's really terrible when someone promises to take u to dinner, and then calls to cancel it. Don't make promises u can't keep. If your partner starts to feel that he/she is not important enough to u, u may just lose him/her. 10. Be Honest.
Honesty is not scowling at how awful she looks first thing in the morning, or telling him that he has the biceps of a fly~! When we say 'be honest', we mean expressing your feelings clearly, not being bitingly cruel. When u're hurt, say so, and when u're angry, tell him/her, w/o getting hysterical. If u can't be honest with ur partner, who can u be honest with? Love is also about honesty, and a relationship where no honesty exists probably isn't worth it!
To me, I feel that guys should ALWAYS treat their GFs as their most precious lil 'princess. Dote on them and give in to them.. It does not mean buying material stuff (although it is a plus point. HEEHEE) but it means showering them with the utmost care and concern. Of course I'm not saying that girls are always right.. But if it is possible, why not just let us girls have our way.? Sometimes, girls just let jealousy get the better of them.. But this is just one of the points which differentiate guys and girls..
Haix.. anyway i myself am not feeling too good abt my own relationship.. It frustrates me to the core.. sometimes i just really can't stop myself from comparing to the past.. The past has so much more to offer than now but we just don't work out. (SAD TO SAY). And i'm not trying to be a mean lil b*tch ok.
Anyway, my dear friend YJ sent this text message which is so undescribable. HAHA
" The only difference in real life and fairytales is that you have to kiss many frogs before you can find your prince. life is a long journey.. you'll never know what lies ahead.. so in the meantime, SMILE. "
LOVE
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